the one about my star

my star . . . very few people actually know the real reason I got this one and the reason behind it. Usually, I just say it’s for some people who have passed. But it’s only for one specific person …

His birthday was November 3rd, and 12 years later it’s not the first thing that comes to my mind anymore. But it hits me like a ton of bricks about half way through the day. I can’t breathe as I try to hold the tears in while I sit at work. How do I explain to customers I’m crying over someone who passed so long ago . . . someone I barely even knew?

and then I feel guilty


His name was Luke.  Even though the large group of teenagers at my church were all friends, We didn’t talk much. He was 4 years older than me, and there was that HUGE crush I didn’t hide very well.

He was tall, dark, handsome, mysterious, …  intimidating. I never even tried to be friends with him. I would when I was his age I thought . . .

On July 25th, 2002 he was gone.

I’ve struggled the past 12 years with how his death has affected me. It’s deep, and real . . . sometimes it’s very raw . . . and it’s always full of guilt.

guilt that I shouldn’t miss someone I wasn’t close to this much . . .

guilt that I never tried to be his friend . . .

guilt that I wasn’t the friend to his sister that I should have been . . .


I found out he was gone on the last day of church camp with most of our mutual friends. Our parents all drove down to pick us up and tried to get us to go home early… my father being the most demanding and outspoken of the group. but we stayed . . .

That group of friends from church . . . not all of us were close, some of us barely spoke then, most of us don’t even speak today, but we have history, we have secrets, we have love, and we will always have the memory of Luke.

That night at camp we sat around the fire holding hands and listening to our leaders talk of friendship and the mysteries behind the stars.

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  • Reply Sarah @ 12 Twenty Seven

    Love you, Bex!

    November 21, 2014 at 9:06 am
  • Reply Nina @ Flowers in my Hair

    I love you so much. I am so glad and blessed to know you.

    November 21, 2014 at 9:06 am
  • Reply Cassie

    I love that your tattoo symbolizes your loss too. It’s such a good reminder when we don’t always remember on our own. I love how simple it is! Thanks so much for linking up!

    November 21, 2014 at 10:21 am
  • Reply Faith

    So glad you got the courage to share this story! Love you bestie!!! (((Hugs)))

    November 21, 2014 at 11:03 am
  • Reply Kendra

    Wow, so touching and so meaningful. I love how tattoos can be a memory to just us that not many people know. It’s great!

    November 21, 2014 at 1:18 pm
  • Reply Melissa @ The Rambling Llama

    Such a sweet, simple tattoo! I love it. I love the meaning too. 🙂 awesome!

    November 21, 2014 at 1:51 pm
  • Reply Rebecca

    Your tattoo is beautiful. A great reminder not to be thankful for every moment we have. And to tell our friends what they mean to us.

    November 21, 2014 at 3:55 pm
  • Reply Laura Beth

    Ahh I have chills from this and of course I also want to know what happened and how he passed and so many things but that isn’t the point, Because your words were touching just as they are!!
    Thanks for sharing!!

    November 21, 2014 at 5:14 pm
  • Reply Ashley LaMar

    Wow. This is amazing and I love that it is so sentimental to you. Sometimes the things we keep with us, and put on us, are very emotionally intense but they are great reminders of the things that are important. This is a beautiful, but sad, story.

    November 21, 2014 at 10:25 pm
  • Reply Rebecca

    Losing someone when you’re young is so hard. Maybe because of the tragedy of never fully experiencing life…? I think it just shows what a caring person you must be, that you feel so much about his loss. And I think it’s wonderful that you memorialized him with such a sweet tattoo.

    November 22, 2014 at 11:19 pm
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